Even moths have to have fun

This week is an exhausting one. I suspect it is because we are at another anniversary. The 8th March is the anniversary of my diagnosis by the hapless consultant and the 15th March is the official diagnosis day, the one where Mr Mason answered the door only to be greeted by Miss Mason who had flown down from Newcastle to come with us to the hospital that day. Bittersweet.

The consultant who diagnoses me plays hockey. I am pretty sure she does, just by looking at her. There is a touch of what we English would call ‘jolly hockey-sticks’ about her. Kind but also with a touch of “Don’t be a baby, it won’t kill you” about her. She is kind and gentle when giving me the definitive diagnosis. It’s not good news, not by anyone’s standards, but she has seen hundreds of women come and go through her clinic, often having to give them bad news. I recall being seen by her about 18 months before after a suspicious shadow on a mammogram. When I go back for the definitive diagnosis, she just lets me shut the door before she tells me everything is OK and that it is not cancer. I haven’t even sat down at this point but she understands that we want the news as early as possible, especially when it is good. As I leave, elated and feeling bubbly, I tell her I hope the rest of her day is good. She smiles and says it won’t be. She has bad news to impart to some. The strange thing is that although Mr Mason accompanies me to the appointment, for some reason I do not want him to come in with me. How much changes in 18 months.

So, back to this week. I have easy meetings on Monday and Tuesday. The kind where the other people at the meeting are friends (in the first) and almost-friends (in the second) and we are allowed to comment on the food and snacks which are provided. My week goes a little off-track at that point and I’m not sure even now, as I write, that it has recovered itself. On Wednesday I wake and feel still overwhelmingly tired. If memory serves me correctly, I spend some time in bed and then come downstairs to see if I can wrangle my sewing machine into submission. It is only required to hem a couple of pairs of trousers and it doesn’t seem like such a big request but it (I) manages to break 4 needles before it will sew properly. While I am there I knock up a couple of lavender bags as I have a big bag from a failed postponed attempt last year.

Thursday is a real non-starter of a day. I wake late and feel unwell. I have a lunch date with a friend who I text and who graciously accepts my excuse allowing me to go back to sleep until nearly 3 in the afternoon during which time Mr Mason has been up working, walked Dog and made me some lunch which he perches gingerly on the side of the bed. The bed is, at this point, strewn with boxes of drugs as I was trying to organise my medication and then went to sleep in the middle. I am sure there is some psychological name for what I am experiencing, that there are buried thoughts and feelings which haven’t made their way to the surface yet but which I am still feeling the effects of. Everyone reading this blog will have different thoughts. Stay in bed! Get up and go out! Shower and brush your teeth first! I feel an anecdote coming over me. I remember being on the tube going into work one morning. The tube line runs from Heathrow into central London and beyond and the carriage I got in was also the mode of transport for a group of young American women. I got the feeling they had not travelled widely and had perhaps forgotten, in their excitement on leaving their native land, that in England we also speak English. I know it’s not strictly the same language. It’s been tweaked by many and, in any case, did not originate from our shores. They were having a loud conversation, mostly about what English people were like. Presumably they thought the line was for visitors and there would be no English people on the train. My mind blanks out the worst of their stereotypical nonsense but I do remember them saying “English people never brush their teeth”. If only the toothpaste companies had known that they would have saved millions on advertising campaigns. I’ve had some similarly bad experiences with British people abroad, admittedly in countries with a different language but that is no excuse. It was the teeth brushing that put me in mind of it and anyway, it was a good distraction from what is going on in my head (but which I have no access to).

Recovery from a major illness takes time and I have no map to guide me. Are days in bed allowed? Should they be discouraged? Maybe I’m like a little chrysalis and will emerge at some point into a huge, fuck-off butterfly. It reminds me of one we saw in South Africa. I daresay it was actually a moth and must point out at that I was quite unpeturbed whereas Master Mason and Mr Mason leaped from the car shrieking. We were staying at Knysna and had gone to a cafe overlooking the Featherbed Nature Reserve. When we went back to the car it was dark and as soon as Mr Mason turned on the car lights, the moth took flight. I say it was big, possibly a 6 inch wingspan but Messrs Mason Inc believe it was enormous and took flight, as did the moth, although they shrieked whereas the moth stayed silent (but possibly laughed an evil laugh in its head). Moths have to have fun somehow. And they were full-on, girly shrieks.

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3 thoughts on “Even moths have to have fun

  1. Be guided by your instincts, what you immediately feel like doing is nearly always the right thing and anyway what is the wrong thing? there is no such thing as wrong only different. Spoken like a teacher of 3 year olds but if I learnt anything it is that we have the ability to get to know ourselves and to take it from there, of course it usually takes a liftetime to achieve but what else do we have to do? (that’s important I hasten to add, when it comes down to the nitty gritty – very little).
    On the subject of nationality I am reading Cultureshock – Japan. I read things I don’t believe can possibly be true then I check with Mike living in Tottori and teaching EFL. Yes he says that’s right- what you ask well South Koreans living In Japan and now Second or Third generation, don’t get the vote in Japan. If you take a day off sick you must apologise to your team for inconveniencing them on your return to work. Basically don’t go sick, as in his case, he would not get paid not having worked for the company for 6 months yet. He can’t have leave for 6 months but gets days off on a rota. That is fine by us as we have emulated Mrs Mason and bought tickets to fly to Japan on 10/10 for one whole month. When son will have leave owing and can travel a bit with us. He has already sent link of a castle in the mountains that is the equivalent of Macchu Picchu. How very exciting. He seems pleased too.
    You may like to know there is a Great Britain version of Cultureshock as indeed of many countries, there is dare I point out one for Thailand, as indeed discover, having checked the list for you, one for Tokyo ALONE – scary. see http://www.marshallcavendish.com/genref Marshall Cavendish is a trademark of Times Publishing Limited. Japan covers First Impressions, The land and its people, The Japanese, Socialising with the Japanese (wonderful anecdotes) Settling In, Eating in Japan, Culture and Travel Communicating with the Japanese, Doing Business in Japan and finally Fast Facts.
    hugs and xxxxxxxx

  2. Of course you are permitted a day in bed. I have days in bed just for the sake of it. Not necessarily illness related. 🙂 Hugs xxx

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